FJ, I'm sorry you and your wife have had to endure this - can't say it goes with the territory, cuz it most certainly does not. As you may remember, I also got a very nasty pm or two from etops back a few months. Very mercurial temperment, apparently, which is okay as long as he doesn't display it publicly or privately, but, unfortunately, he does. Pretty outrageous conduct, and pretty good evidence that it cannot be controlled, even with effort on his part, so that's too bad for him.